~these are the days of watching your children become friends~
It was the best $13 I ever spent at on Target clearance.
A present for Eden’s birthday, and yet the gracious and kind soul that she is shared it with her older siblings. To be honest, it would have been hard for her to do the entire thing by herself, but it was her present, so she could have chosen to.
I suppose it’s not really a small moment. It was them having fun for several hours. Yes, hours. Literally. They only needed me to dump out the dirty paint water.
Is that really small? Is that something I wouldn’t normally notice? Even Eliana said I can’t write about it because it’s not really a small enough moment.
I think what struck me the most, though, was in the moment of watching them laugh and work together, that they aren’t just siblings.
They are friends.
Forced friends because they live together? No, I don’t think so. It’s natural and beautiful and stems from the time we spend together and how we’re raising them to treat each other.
Trust me, there’s nothing perfect about that.
They annoy each other like siblings do. They need their space and privacy at times. We all have our moments of frustration and driving each other crazy. There’s lot of love and hugs. But there’s yelling sometimes. And crying. And not just from them. This mama confesses to that too.
But with God’s grace, we’re teaching them to love each other. Even when one accidentally destroys their Lego creations. Even when they go into each other’s rooms without asking. Even if they forget to flush the toilet. Even when they forget to cap the markers and no one can find a red one.
The moment I caught today isn’t that much different from any other day. These kids really like each other. Despite all the normal stuff of annoying each other from time to time, they are full of love for each other. They really encourage each other and want to see good things for each other. Their relationship isn’t forced.
When I witness them sharing this moment together, hearing them say things like, “good job,” “that looks really cool,” “can you help me with this?” or “wow, I love the colors you picked,” I stop and smile to myself. Watching them become friends, seeing the ins and outs of how they relate to each other in different ways, hearing them pray for each other, watching them smile in genuine happiness for each other; this is the stuff. The small moments that I’m piecing together day after day. I guess it’s sort of normal and I don’t pay attention to it on most days. I forget to recognize it for the beautiful thing it really is. But today, I stopped and took notice.
There are enough days of parenting that leave me feeling like I’ve failed them. That they deserve someone more patient and less concerned with the never-ending crumbs under the table. So I need moments like this to remind me that we are doing something right. Not something perfect. But something good. Raising little people who love each other and genuinely enjoy being together.
I’m not naive enough to think that their relationships will never be challenged and they’ll just be happy together forever. But I’m prayerful and hopeful enough that their identities will be solidified in who they are in Christ. And that will be fuel for them to fight for friendship as they grow older.
What do “these days” look like for you. Simply comment with one…these are the days of…
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